tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7142659143887005984.post6916260203820991930..comments2017-10-27T07:32:51.994-07:00Comments on One Smart Mama: The Giving BloggerLollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7142659143887005984.post-16721196740933712222008-06-10T12:57:00.000-07:002008-06-10T12:57:00.000-07:00You really need to do what is right for you. But I...You really need to do what is right for you. But I agree with the advice about not burning bridges, at least until you are sure that is the right decision.Trinkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928582349689352633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7142659143887005984.post-5341702363814451002007-10-02T14:28:00.000-07:002007-10-02T14:28:00.000-07:00To a certain extent, as much as I love the support...To a certain extent, as much as I love the support of the blogging community, I know it is not the same thing as my friends in real life. I am active in it now, but I don't expect to be here all the time for the rest of the my life, regardless of the outcome of my struggles. The community as a whole is stronger than any one of its parts, and one of the beauties is that people can come and go, rely on support and give support when they're able, and move on when they feel finished, or just take a break for a few months if they're not sure. The rest of the blogging community continues to be there as a supportive nest. <BR/><BR/>I think if someone feels like it's time to move on to other things, that's the right thing to do. I don't even feel like if you decided later you wanted to come back for more support, that it would be the equivalent of the Giving Tree scenario. I think the rest of the community will continue to thrive and flourish and has plenty to offer without becoming strained. If you do leave and come back, the relationship will be different, things may take a little while to build up again, but it could still be there.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7142659143887005984.post-54484474451249385002007-10-02T07:36:00.000-07:002007-10-02T07:36:00.000-07:00As one of the ones who has taken a long break, I h...As one of the ones who has taken a long break, I have chosen to cut my ties with some message boards. I didn't necessarily explain it either: I just terminated my membership. For the first 6 months after stopping treatment, I hung around. Slowly I realized that these boards, which were focused on the goal of pregnancy, had become too much of a negative place for me. Instead of acknowledging that I, too, had moved on, I felt stuck. <BR/><BR/>Was deleting membership the act of a disappointed and bitter woman? Yes. Was it a step toward resolution and health? Absolutely. <BR/><BR/>Do whatever you need to do to allow yourself to become unstuck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7142659143887005984.post-77402509380304204432007-10-02T07:12:00.000-07:002007-10-02T07:12:00.000-07:00I think that what lj said summed things up nicely....I think that what lj said summed things up nicely. <BR/><BR/>Being apart of a bulletin board community I have seen people take different paths and I have personally walked away when it became too painful. I explained why I was leaving and they understood. I would go back every once in while to check on specific people and couple would do the same for me. <BR/><BR/>When people have walked away, I understood. I felt like they were friends and in the end, I just wanted them to be happy and satisfied with their life. After leaving some would pop back in every 6 months or so- I loved seeing their posts because I would always wonder how they were doing.<BR/><BR/>What to do with your blog is up to you and it's important that you are comfrotable with the decision. That being said, it sounds like it was a emotinal and creative outlet for you. Perhaps if/ when you are ready you could consider starting a different blog. Just a thought...<BR/><BR/>In the end, friends will understand and support you in your decision because it's what is best for you.Grad3https://www.blogger.com/profile/01507004280070094471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7142659143887005984.post-9224826690985930422007-10-02T05:13:00.000-07:002007-10-02T05:13:00.000-07:00Dear Uncomfortably,There was a time where I was al...Dear Uncomfortably,<BR/><BR/>There was a time where I was all about the bulletin board, but I outgrew it. It hurt too much to see the women struggle for all of three months and go on to a happy and healthy pregnancy. I no longer fit in, and sought out new solace. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps, take this time for yourself to explore your options. There are also bloggers out there who are considering, or have decided to walk away. There may be some resource out there beyond boards and blogs. Some women feel better walking away from the option of pregnancy, going back on the pill, or more. Some want to just not actively try or not try. I think it's the difference that only you can decide. Do you leave your blog available for later, or is it the right choice for you to close that door.<BR/><BR/>Either way, you need to be true to yourself first. Be kind to the friends that you've made, let them know your plans. Good friends will understand, if you deal with it maturely and openly.LJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08398924875071245573noreply@blogger.com